100 secret to great relatonship - Session 3

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11 See the love around you
People do not experience love in isolation from their other personnel relationship. For example, people in satisfying relationships were 22 percent more likely to think of themselves as well loved by family members and friends than were people with unsatisfying relationships.

12 Doing nothing is rarely a solution
Married couples who report they never argue with eachother are 35 percent more likely to divorce within four years are couples who report regularly disagreeing

13 You'll forget the disagreement but remember the disagreeing
Asked to describe three recent disagreements with their partner, people had ten times as much to say about their feelings and the tone of the disagreement as about the topic of the disagreement. Twenty-five percent of people forgot the topic of a disagreement but could describe their feelings on the situation.

14 Pursue what you need forever not what you want today
Couples that pursue a hedonistic form of happiness,seeking to fulfill their desires regardless of their needs, endure twice as much conflict as couples that persue more altruistic forms of happiness ( that is, based on creating feelings of unity and mutual satisfaction)

15 Seek harmony in your life
Researchers find a spillover effect such that people who experience high levels of conflict in their relationship are 20 percent less satisfied with their job and people who experience high levels of stress on the job are 38 percent less satisfied with their personal life